Women And Dating: Why Nice Guys Finish Last

Women And Dating: Why Nice Guys Finish Last

There are many reasons why a nice guy finishes last — when it comes to getting the attention of a female he admires. Often many nice guys are too shy to speak up and ask a female for he phone number. They wait too long to ask, and by that time a guy who is less shy or a semi bad guy walks up and ask for her phone number.

The lady gives the guy he number. The nice guy is going crazy trying to figure how come the guy was not shy and afraid of being rejected. Why does a bad guy who seems to care less for a female, insensitive, semi rude, coarse personality, and unromantic often get a females attention and her phone number?

1. It is because he is less shy.

2. his personality gives the impression of excitement

3. He is not afraid of being told no by a female meaning he does not fear rejection.

4. He has a sense of humor and many nice guys come across lacking a sense of humor. Now not all so called bad guys have a sense of humor but many do.

5. He comes across as more masculine in personality.

6. He does not seem needy for the females’ attention as though she is his whole world. A needy man is often seen as weak in the eyes of women.

7. often he is more out going and extroverted.

8. There is a sense of mystery about him.

Many nice guys always come across as the problem solver when a woman they are interested in is in need. This often causes the nice guy to be put into the category of friend and nice guy. If you are not interested in a particular female then you don’t mind being put into the category of nice guy. Now if you are interested this is the category that you don’t want to end up in.

If you are interested in a female you should flirt a little with her too. Too many nice guys don’t flirt with the woman they are interested in — because they think she will not like it.
Nice guys often come across as weak, less masculine, less confident, and too shy.

Women like guys whom come across as confident, masculine, not needy, and sense of personality. Many cocky guys have this. There are men who are not cocky bad guys and are not nice guys either. They are in the middle of cocky bad guy and nice guy. They are the confident guys, a cocky bad guy is confident too but the confident guy is not bad nor cocky he is an easy going person. He is not too shy and boring like the nice guy, and he does not have the cocky personality of a bad guy.

The confident guy is alright.


Dating Secret Exposed: Why Nice Guys Finish Last

By April Masini Friday, Jun 20, 2008

Are you a nice guy who has always wondered why the cocky guy — the one who barely appears interested in the girl — is usually the one who gets the girl?

Have you suffered from hearing the words, "You’re a really nice guy, but I only like you as a friend," from a woman who you would do (or may, in fact, have already done) just about anything and everything for — only to turn around and watch her date (or even chase) a guy who treats her like she’s nothing special?

And are you stumped wondering why she would date a guy who treats her like that when she could have you who would treat her like a princess and give her everything she wants? Well, you better brace yourself because I’m going to tell you a couple of secrets that you might not want to hear.

First, "nice" equates with boring and predictable. Look up "nice" in the dictionary and you find: pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory. In other words, average — not exceptional, not exciting, and not sexy. I’ll bet you’ve never heard a woman say she didn’t want to date a guy because he was too confident, too passionate, or too exciting — have you? But, I’ll bet you have heard women say things like, "He’s such a nice guy. He’s so sweet and he’s always there for me, but I only like him as a friend." Or, "He’s such a good guy — kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal — but there’s no chemistry. He just doesn’t turn me on." Sadly, I hear it all the time.

 

The fact is, Mr. Nice Guy, you cannot bore a woman into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you. And as obvious as that sounds, if you are one of those guys I described that is exactly what you are trying to do. And it won’t work.

Please understand that I am not suggesting that you mistreat women or disrespect them in any way.

What I suggesting is that you value and respect yourself more.

To illustrate what I mean: The answer to the question, "Why does the guy who doesn’t appear to care as much about the girl get the girl?" is simple: The nice guy cares too much, too soon. He has made the woman too important and too valuable and it shows in everything he says and does. He is too available, too eager to please, too accommodating, and he gives too much — all without getting anything in return. By doing so, he has made himself appear desperate, insecure, needy of this woman’s attention, affection, and approval — and he has stripped himself of any value in her eyes. After all, if he’s already doing and giving everything, without her doing or giving anything – why would she value him? She won’t. She is not going to value him any more than he values himself. What she is going to do is look for someone else, someone who she perceives as being more worthy, more confident, and more valuable.

It works like this:

Once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiation. You are in a position of weakness and you are perceived as weak. Someone (or something) else is in control of you, the situation, and it’s outcome. Men in this situation appear to be anything but confident, strong, and exciting. More, they are perceived as being unworthy and as lacking value.
Translation: Things that are easily acquired, obtained, or maintained, without any effort or sacrifice, lack value… it’s human nature.

The secret to why the cocky guy wins with women, over the nice guy, is that he is perceived as being a stronger, more confident guy with more value. How? He never invests everything — his entire being, ego, and self-worth in what one woman’s response or reaction to him is. He doesn’t gush with compliments; he isn’t always available; he doesn’t give too much; and he knows he isn’t going to die if a woman says "no" to him. More, his attitude is, yeah, I’d like to go out with you, but if I can’t, that’s OK — I’m a busy guy, with exciting things going on, and lots of other options.


  1. Denise

    Women, we like diversity. We like for a man to be our Lover, friend, confidant, protector and comedian. Most of us do not want a man that we feel that we can control, we love it when a man takes charge of things-well I do, just as long as he respects me and my decisions. Yes, us women can be difficult creatures at times, but diversity is the key to us, we get bored with the same old stuff. Although we want you to treat us with respect, we love a little naughtiness every now and then, furthermore, we like for our guy to smack us on the butt every now and then, or blow us a kiss, or give us a “dirty” look, but just don’t over do it, leave us craving for more.

  2. Chance

    Denise,

    You have brought up some good points. All men should take note of what you just wrote. Thank you for sharing, and being honest about what you wrote. I hope more men come by and read this comment, because intuition is saying that Denise is right.

    There is something so sexy about when a man understands what the average woman is really like in a relationship (what you wrote Denise is what the average man needs to understand).

    Thanks for the tips




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